Wednesday, September 9, 2009


My dad is worse. He is having strokes now. We are just waiting for God to send His angels to take Daddy home. He is in little or no pain, and as comfortable as he can be.

Today was okay. The big thing was that I got some answers, and we had our chance to talk to the folks in charge of the organization that runs the hospice house and in-home hospice care.

I told you that on Monday I was on the phone all day trying to get someone to come see about him, and I finally did get someone who heard the desperation in my voice, and we got him back to the facility so he can be cared for the way he needs to be. Yesterday (Tuesday) morning I called the main desk to check on Daddy's condition. The 'unit director', Lisa answered the phone, barely answered my question and then right out of the blue said "It was my understanding your dad's sisters wanted him to go home". My answer to her was "it wasn't their call to make - now or ever"!

The thing that bothered me was that I thought it was possible that one of my dad's sisters might have done something behind our back, but I wasn't sure, and didn't want to say anything until I found out for sure. My mother and I have joint and equal durable power of attorney in my dad's health care, and that was the way HE wanted it. I just wanted to make clarify that point. This afternoon I had the chance to ask one of the ladies who was involved in forcing us to take Daddy home, and she assured me that was not the case, and that apparently Lisa was trying to cover her own rear end. And I was so glad that my aunt was not involved.

We also got to talk to the Clinical Director who I talked with on Monday night, and another lady. We told them how we felt, and how poorly things were handled. We also told them we just wanted to see them change their procedures so that no other family ever has to feel that they don't have any options. That was how we felt, what we were lead to believe. He had to go home, period, no other options existed. Now we know better, and we hope this will make them change how they do things.

So, I got the answers I needed, and the knot that had been in my stomach for days now, has diminished greatly. The pain in my heart is still there, but that will be there a long, long time. But I will be strong and continue on, because that is what my Daddy would expect of me.

Thanks for your continued prayers and encouraging words. I am blessed to call you friends! Becky


Anonymous said...

I continue to remember you all in prayer. I am grateful that you have answers now and some of the stress/aggravation has been removed.

LissyLou said...

Becky - i wish i knew what to say but there are no words. You are in my thoughts and prayers xx

Sue said...

Dear Becky,

I'm glad that the situation with the hospice has been straightened out. It is so very scary when you feel that you have only one option and that option is too much for you to deal with. I'm glad your dad is being taken care of and that you and your mom are still holding strong. You are all in my prayers.