So, I have a question for you! It may seem an odd kind of question, but it's not really when you think about it. Here goes . . .
When you think of your friends, real friends, what do you see or look at first - your differences or your similarities?
In the last few months I have met two women under the same set of circumstances, and while one of them has become a good friend in a short amount of time. The other one not so much and, unless something changes drastically, I don't see that changing any time soon. So, why the difference between these two ladies?
Well, the first woman - the one I now call friend - and I immediately started noticing our similarities. Such as how we had grown up less than 50 miles from each other and how we both met our loves later in life than most and on and on and on. And our friendship quickly grew based on those similarities. Yes, we acknowledged and accepted our differences, but it was the similarities upon which we built our friendship, and upon which it grew and flourished.
The other lady will not get close enough to even SEE any similarities! Instead she is constantly trying to set herself apart and prove how different (and in some cases how much better) she is from me/us. And it's so sad, because she is robbing herself the friendships of two people who would love to nurture a frienship with her. We keep trying, but she is so busy trying to prove how different she is, that she can't even see the similarities. And I can't help but wonder how many other friendships she has missed out on over the years!
Friendships, especially for women, are so important! We both want, and need, to have that connection, that bond with other women. So tell me, what is it that you see most in your friendships? And if it is differences, how did you overcome that obstacle and build something beautiful out of it?